Michael Brown, an innocent, unarmed teenager, is gunned down by police. In response, the community rioted and protested, and the police retaliated with tear gas and rubber bullets.

Aaron Hill, a disabled boy, is beaten by his peers in a brutal assault that the police are COVERING UP to protect…


Hannibal Buress on peer pressure. [via]


Hannibal Buress on peer pressure. [via]


1. Your skin may never be perfect, and that’s okay.

2. Life is too short not to have the underwear, the coffee, and the haircut you want.

3. Everyone (including your family, your coworkers, and your best friend) will talk about you behind your back, and you’ll talk about them too. It doesn’t mean you don’t love each other.

4. It’s okay to spend money on things that make you happy.

5. Sometimes without fault or reason, relationships deteriorate. It will happen when you’re six, it will happen when you’re sixty. That’s life.


- Five things I am trying very hard to accept. (via equily)

(Source: aumoe)


Leszek Holdanowicz, poster artwork for Peace race - Friedensfahrt, 1968. Poland.


Leszek Holdanowicz, poster artwork for Peace race - Friedensfahrt, 1968. Poland.

My Parents are Dead and My Sister is Disabled






On May 28th, my sister, Edna, turned 31.


Her mental age is about three years old. She loves Winnie the Pooh, Beauty & the Beast, and Sesame Street. Even though the below picture is unconvincing. 


Edna and “Cookie.” I think she was trying to play it cool. 

My name is Jeanie. I’m Edna’s younger sister. I’m also her guardian and caregiver. 


That’s me on the left. (Hey, you never know. After a year of writing a blog about online dating - Jeanie Does the Internet - I’ve come to learn that there are A LOT of fools on the internet.) 


ANYWAY, I’m not “doing the internet” anymore. I’m taking care of Edna full-time, after completing my MFA in Writing for Screen & Television at USC.


May 16, 2014. I wanted a picture. Edna wanted breakfast.

In case you’re wondering where our parents are, they’re dead. Our mom died of breast cancer when she was just 33. 


Us with mom before she died. (Obviously.)

As for our dad, he peaced-out around the time my mom got sick. His loss - we’re awesome. 


Here we are being awesome at the beach. Pushing a wheelchair in the sand? Not so awesome. 

In case you’re wondering “What’s wrong?” with my sister - as a stranger once asked me on the street  -  NOTHING. Yes, Edna has a rare form of epilepsy - Lennox-Gastaut syndrome - but I don’t know if that’s anymore “wrong” than people who don’t have manners. 

Basically, Edna was born “normal,” and started having seizures as a baby. They eventually got so bad that they cut off the oxygen to her brain, causing her to be mentally disabled. Or impaired. Or intellectually disabled. Or whatever you want to call it - except “retarded,” because in 2010, President Obama signed Rosa’s Law into effect, replacing that word with “intellectually impaired.” 

Which is cool and all, but services for the disabled and the people who care for them are SEVERELY LACKING. Also, there’s a bunch of people working in taxpayer-funded positions who are supposed to help families like us, but don’t. (Big surprise, I know.) They just fill out paperwork (whenever they feel like it) with asinine statements like this: 


YUP. I transport my sister down the stairs in her wheelchair, because that is not only safe, but TOTALLY PRACTICAL. Why doesn’t everyone in a wheelchair just take the stairs, for God’s sake? Stop being so lazy, PEOPLE WITHOUT WORKING LEGS! 

But, as it says above, Edna’s legs do work. Whether or not she wants them to, is another story. 


Edna refusing to go inside. 

These are the stairs that I have to carry her up - by myself - on a daily basis. That is, until one of my legs break and both of us are just sitting at the bottom of the stairs, helpless. 


For six months, I have begged - BEGGED - the State of California to help my sister, which they are required by law - The Lanterman Act specifically - to do so. But they’ve told me “these things take time” and that I “need to amend my expectations.” (That was said to me when I refused to place Edna at AN ALL-MALE CARE FACILITY. Because yes, that was an “option” that was offered to me.) 

Prior to Edna moving in with me in my one-bedroom apartment, she was living with her amazing caregiver, Gaby, back in Tucson, where we went to high school and I did my undergrad. Edna’s reppin’ the Wildcats below. 


But back in November, Gaby also died from breast cancer. (FUCK YOU, BREAST CANCER!) This picture was taken a month before she died. She never even told me she was sick because she didn’t want me to worry. 

By the way, we were raised by our grandma. Edna and her were very close.


She’s dead, too. Surprise.

She died when I was 20 and Edna was 21. That’s when I became Edna’s legal guardian and Gaby stepped into the picture to help me out with Edna. 

So, six months ago, after Gaby died, I moved Edna to California, where I tried to get the folks over at The Frank D. Lanterman Regional Center to help me. I’ve told them I’m worried about our safety - that one of us could get hurt on the stairs -  I’ve told them I can’t afford to pay the private babysitters $15/hour because the ones social services sent me who make $9/hour were unreliable (they didn’t show up on time or at all so I could get to school and work), untrustworthy (one of them let Edna go to the bathroom in the kitchen and then took her into the bathroom because “that what I thought I was supposed to do.”) 

But the people over at the FLRC don’t return my calls, they don’t file the paperwork on time - and the first caseworker that was assigned to us actually LAUGHED AT my sister when he came to our home to evaluate her. When I reported him to his supervisor, she told me, “That’s just [insert name of said jackass].” 

He was one of the two caseworkers that contributed to the report I mentioned above, which also included this: 


So let me get this straight - I have to feed, bathe, dress and help Edna in the bathroom and you can’t deduce whether or not she is able to vote? What in the fuck?!

Now I realize I seem angry. And you can bet your balls I am. I’m also sad. Sad for those who don’t have family to stick up from them and who waste away God knows where, monitored by no one. Or monitored by people who physically and sexually assault them

I’m also sad for the caregivers who are SO EXHAUSTED - trying to take care of their loved ones - while also trying to take care of themselves and battling a system that is supposed to help, but does nothing of the sort. And I know a lot of people give up. They let their dreams, their marriages, their friendships slide. All while trying not to resent the very person you’re doing it all for.


Edna wanted to sit next to me the other day while I was writing. Clearly, she’s not impressed. 

Here’s the thing: I REFUSE TO GIVE UP. I’M NOT GIVING UP ON HER OR MYSELF. I’m going to pursue my dreams while taking care of her, AND while ensuring that the people paid to do their jobs ACTUALLY do them.

That’s where you come in. I need you to help me get my story out there. Because I know I’m not alone in this. I want to connect with families who are in similar situations and also show people who have no idea what it’s like to care for someone with a disability (or even a loved one who is sick) that it can be rewarding. Super fucking hard. Exhausting. Painful. Isolating. But, rewarding. 

I’m going to get help for my sister - and others. My hope is that by sharing our story, I can bring awareness to the lack of services and help for the disabled. 

Thank you, 


Facebook:  facebook.com/eisforedna

Twitter: @EisforEdna 

This made me cry



This is a really uplifting and inspirational story of a family sticking by each other and making things work despite a whole lot of shit

They just want to find other people in the same position they are, for a sense of community and to feel like they aren’t alone.

I know out of all of you, some of you have followers who are living with and taking care of intellectually or emotionally disabled family members, and this lovely and unbreakable pair of sisters need to find them.


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You guys probably think I’m a crazy dog lady but I’ll never stop taking pics of them! Especially because it is #nationaldogday the bottom 2 is Sandie, my sister’s #lhasaapso and Chewy, @thephantomlio ‘s #ratterrier …and of course my top 2 loves Aris and Flora #Ratese #morkie #dogsofinstagram

You guys probably think I’m a crazy dog lady but I’ll never stop taking pics of them! Especially because it is #nationaldogday the bottom 2 is Sandie, my sister’s #lhasaapso and Chewy, @thephantomlio ‘s #ratterrier …and of course my top 2 loves Aris and Flora #Ratese #morkie #dogsofinstagram

Well I got my financial aid and I just ordered a Chrome messenger bag, and tomorrow I’m gonna go to my college bookstore and get the MacBook Air.

It is hitting me that this is gonna be my last year of college. It’s bittersweet, more bitter because I had so many big dreams when I got into the graphic design program like getting an internship or a job to build my experience, being involved with SFA (Student Fashion Association)…I also really wanted to intern for Sac Fashion Week. But those dreams were crushed because of lupus and transportation issues (seizures). To see my fellow design peers be able to get internships and jobs and not me is disheartening because they are capable. Part of me feels meh about graphic design and I don’t know if it’s because I see my peers do better…I do the best I can, honest to God but I let my emotional issues about my disease stump me and limit me.

I hope I can still reach my dreams even despite having lupus and not being able to drive.

I still don’t trust my doctors even though they are doing what they can to get me better. They aren’t giving me what I want. But I guess it’s not about what I want.

I’m still gonna do the best I can this last year job or not.

I have faith but sometimes I ask God “why me? Why did we have to have medical conditions? Why my dad?”

I hope I get stronger from this. I hope I can still achieve all that I can. Will I be able to? I would love to be a designer for the beauty or fashion industry. Sephora and Benefit HQ are just in San Francisco! I sometimes think about being a makeup artist on the side. I’d love to design for nonprofit organizations or healthcare organizations too. I know this one guy who graduated from the graphic design program in 2006, he is actually gonna be our magazine design teacher this coming semester and he works at UC Davis Medical Center (my hospital) as a senior designer and I asked him about it a few months ago and maybe hopefully I could work there too. I’d also like to write and design for Relevant Magazine but they’re all the way in Orlando.

But I’m gonna do my best no matter what my emotions are because I didn’t quit trying to get in the graphic design program and I’m gonna finish what I started.


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